We don't set rules in our house unless our kids show the need for them — for the most part, we talk to our kids about their discipline and they are involved in the formation of rules and consequences. This has so far worked well for us, but every so often it bites you in the ass. My daughter attends an online high school, and recently joined Facebook. Since signing up, her social life has suddenly exploded — and she's found young men and women she has expressed an interest in.

When Trey Freund of Wichita, Kan. Sleepovers for Trey ended after that. Now at 16, with his family in the audience, Trey performs in drag at a local club. Instead of sleepovers, he drives home after hanging out with friends.

Sleepovers have long been a rite of passage for tweens and teens: those Saturday nights when groups of boys or groups of girls stay up late to watch movies, eat pizza and gossip. But today, as fewer kids are identifying as exclusively heterosexual, some parents are questioning what to do about those gatherings. A recent study by trend forecasting agency J. Walter Thompson Innovation Group found that just 48 percent of to year-olds are identifying as exclusively heterosexual, compared with 65 percent of millennials. Quite a few parents have discovered after the fact that the best friend who is always sleeping over is actually a girl or a boyfriend, Hakanson said.