Sex columnist Anka Radakovich explains how to give your partner great oral sex and have her coming back for more. What do women really want? As a single, hetero woman, I have been with men who ranged from the one who had no idea what he doing downtown to another who was so skilled that I put a framed photo of his tongue on my desk. With just a few simple techniques, you can easily become a cunning linguist. Before you even start, giving a woman an orgasm comes down to one thing; the clitoris.